Super Woman

When you hear the word Super Woman can you associate yourself to it? I'm sure the answer will likely be yes. Over the years the role of a woman has evolved so much and I'm sure most of us would associate the woman in the bible with the normal traditional woman. Today I want to tell you that the evolved woman is the same with the bible. The bible shows us Great women that were the back bones of their husbands, that held their homes together that fought on their own. So whether you are a mom, wife, or all of the above; when you think that your responsibilities are overwhelming you, Pray for the strength of the Super Women in the bible. Esther, Sarah, Elizabeth, Mary, Mary Magdalene and lot more because God designed you to be the shoulder of your home. A mother to your children by guiding them, supporting them, believing in them whilst you love them unconditionally at the same time doing these also for your husband standing only for what is true.

I spent some years driving my wagon of life with God as my spare wheels. It was a period of good memories because where people saw my situation as bad, the results of God were positive. My husband and I would sit and ask ourselves how things were working out and the only answer was God. It got to a point where my main prayer was "God if I don't know how you change things for me, no one will ever know (psalm 139). This worked until the devil started showing me things to make me think it was my doing. The Spirit of God kept warning me that I was talking too much and taking God's glory but I wouldn't listen.

Keep your marriage going

So in the space of two years I have had two children. At this point overwhelmed seems to be an understatement. Between being a mother, student wife (not in any particular order) trust me they are all as demanding. In all this I have struggled to maintain my role as a wife. I watch movies and you see single couples in hot sizzling relationships; two things come to my head at this point. 1. they are actors. 2. They haven't got children. If you have got kids and feel overwhelmed like me, and asking how do I balance this? I can't give you the absolute answer but what I do now is to make sure the kids are in bed by 8.30pm, I try to nap when you can during the day and do things on your own and with your partner. Hook up with friends (don't go wild) a drink, movies, swimming, exercise. Find a balance that suits you. It keeps your mind relaxed and less frustrated.

Plan yourself to achieve what you want. You can't do it all but one day at a time helps. If you are a Christian, don't wait for the opportunity to be alone and have an hour with God. If the opportunity presents itself then fine. If not anytime you are up, pray, when you are cleaning or cooking; praise God. You will find inner peace and God will see you through trials and temptations. Till we meet again. Ore kor.

Beauty

Hello people,
Longest time. Been tied down. I was just laying on the couch and I thought what is the relevance of beauty in marriage? I had a telephone conversation this evening and I told my cousin I had added weight since he last saw me. He then said "that means you are ugly now? I replied no but maybe not as pretty as before. I reflected on women I know who have remained beautiful over the years and realised most of them have failed marriages. Physical beauty will not make a cheating spouse stay. Staying beautiful should be something you do for yourself. If you do it for yourself then you will find happiness within you and thus build a healthy relationship. I can leave my house without any make up and have a pleasant day. When I make up, people always compliment me more but I like how God sees me and how people see my character not beauty.

This is because whilst man looks at outlooks, God looks at inward looks. I spend most of my time working on how God sees me and it always reflect on how others see me. The scripture tells us that "For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his. (Romans 8:5-9 KJV)


To be spiritually minded is life and peace. I know I want this peace because with the Chaos  of daily struggles, I like to know I can find peace somewhere. When I'm upset, I go to him for peace, when I'm hurt, he's there, when I'm confused, he always makes a way, even when it feels like the whole world is against me; I find solace in him. He is my everything. My friend, my helper, my guide, my guard, my teacher, my everlasting father. Let us all begin to find our inner beauty so that the world can then appreciate our outer beauty because we are completely beautiful. Have a blessed week.

Renew your mind

Hello people,
Longest time. Apologies for the long silence. Been a hectic week but all glory to God. So I got a comment the other day about marriage and pondered on the bible verse. Romans12:2. Why would God warn us not to conformed to this world? Many marriages fail because people conform to the things of this world. Firstly, we always do things based on what people would think or do. The things off this world tells us that divorce is a solution; knowing fully well that God hates divorce. The first thing I would say us: let's note the things we don't like about our partners. The things you think it's only a matter of time before you hit your limit.what we are going to try doing is to change our mind set. Bad thing is we cannot do it on our own. The good news is that God is there to help us. So instead of thinking " the next time they say or do something like this I'm gone" we are going to start praying to God to change our mind set to dwell and focus on the good in our partners and see that their down sides are not relevant.

The full verse states "And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God". God expects us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. I urge us today as Christians to allow our lives emulate our Lord Jesus because by doing this, we will show others the perfect will of God. If we tell ourselves that there is nothing our spouse will do that would make us leave them; then there would be nothing for the devil to dwell on. He is there feeding on our anger and judgements of others. This stops us from seeing things from the eyes of God. Let us each day commit our marriages to God and resist the devil. If we are true to ourselves, the sky would be our first step. Father Lord I pray thee this day to begin to renew the mind of the person reading this blog. I ask that you Holy spirit begins to transform their spirit and teach them to live each day in your presence so that your perfect WILL in their lives will show for others to see In Jesus Name. Amen.

Not I but the Lord

Hi everyone,
Let me start today by thanking everyone who reads these blogs regularly. I hope you are finding a thing or two beneficial. I know I am learning from them. Today is kind of a follow up from the last blog this is because I am trying to look at how God intends for us to live. We will be looking at 1st Cor 7: 10-17. We will begin with verse 10 & 11. "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife". My first question is; do people know this before they commit to marriage in the first place? I know a few people enter marriages assuming that they can always divorce and re marry. I know of two women who have obeyed this insruction. But believe me if I tell you that they were not aware of this portion but were only doing what they thought was right. This goes to show that you do not have to be a church going, all praying person to do the will of God. Once you strive to do good towards all men and let your conscience guide you; the spirit of God will always dwell with you. So to all the divorcees and separated couples, I urge you to start praying your way back together. If you are thinking " my partner doesn't know God" then I have a bigger surprise for you.

The next two chapters are for you and others in a marriage or relationship with un believers. Here it goes "But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. (1 Corinthians 7:12&13). Why has God said this? The next two verses says that the unbelieving husband or wife is saved by the believing spouse. All this means is that if the other person really loves you, you can pray God to change them. Like I say "if we follow the will of God, we will not fail" this is because God has an answer to every situation. Verse 15 goes on to give us the exception in this matter. "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. So you see even God knows that there is a limit to what a person can take. Let us note that it says if the unbeliever departs; not you the believer. It is expected of you to cast all your marital burden on the Lord and he will grant you the desires of your heart. Yet not I but the Lord. Remain blessed and the God of all understanding will grant you peace IJN.

Divorce

Hello all,

Hope the week is blessed so far? That we are alive and well is reason enough to be grateful. Growing up, most of us are told the bible is a guideline from God. I don't know if we have given this saying much thought but I tell you today tha it is literally true. Since starting this blog, I pay a bit more attention to every verse of the bible I read.  When we last looked at marriage; we used the old testament. In the new testament however, Jesus explains divorce from the old testament. Being the son of God, he tells us why Moses permitted divorce. "They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. (Matthew 19:7-9 KJV)". Jesus tells us that divorce is as a result of our hardened hearts.

I think this means that if we trust in God, we should be able to settle our differences amicably. No matter what we think is the extreme case for each of us, it is nothing before God. I had my own limitations as well and could argue my reason any day. Reading this portion now, I pray for God to always direct my steps and actions and give me wisdom in making decisions. Verse 9 of this portion tells us that any man who puts away his wife ( except it be fornication) and marries another commits adultery. How many marriages are formed on this basis? I for one can count about twenty. This is an alarm bell for all of us because the unlit ate race is heaven andGod wants us to run towards heaven in every aspect of our lives. Be is professional, in our relationships, as parents, sibblings and members of societies. One good deed a day everyone. Stay and remain blessed.

Listening

Hi guys, hope you are enjoying these blogs. Well I am still waiting for the comments . Today topic was inspired by a quote from a friend and it got me thinking. Hmm  eso the quote states " how often do are you in a conversation but you are not really listening because you've already made up your mind? Or you shut down, or you can't bear being wrong? Whatever the reason. Get over it. Learn to listen. If for no other reason than to ensure that your own voice gets heard because no man is an island".
This quote applies to all aspects of ones live but I will apply it to marriage as usual. The first thing that came to my mind was wow how true is this? For one when I ask for my husbands opinion on something, he believes I'm just being courteous and I will go on and do what I like regardless of what he says. Me on the other hand, I am doing this unconsciously. Men are said to be bad listeners and if you ask a man why, most of them would say we women talk a lot and worry about unnecessary things. However, we women do want your opinions; that's why we are asking and what we come to discuss with you might seem unnecessary to you but it is important to us.
Other times, you might be upset with your spouse and when they apologise, a voice in your head says "they are going to do it again"  what this small voice does is prevent you from moving on. I have learnt along the way that listening is a skill needed in a successful marriage. The bible tells us that before we ask from God, he knows what we want. However, he still requires us to make our requests to him. If God listens to us when we call on him; why can't we listen to one another. Wives to husbands, husbands to wives, parent to children friend to friend and brothers to sister.lets try and practice good and stand for truth in order to make this world a better place one blog at a time. Night all.