Intro ( marriage)

Hi everyone, I'm starting this blog because some black marriages around me are failing and I know it's not what either of the couples intended when they said "I do". This got me thinking about this very important institution that we should be happy in. Where do things go wrong? What are we missing? And what do we know about marriage before we venture into it? The way we are married is usually moulded by our views of marriage. I would like to know other views of marriage around the African spectrum. My family portrays a long line of polygamy. However this does mean I plan or want to be in one. Growing up I read a lot of western novels that gave me a different perspective of marriage. A lecturer once told me in my first year that I wouldn't have values at that stage of my life because I didn't have a lot of factual evidence to back my values. True that but three years after I am beginning to build my values. In today's world, before you get married you spend sometime with your partner. This time can vary from 1week to ten years. Though my question is does it really matter how long you know someone? Can you really know the truth about someone in a week or ten years? Let's ponder on these question till we see again tomorrow.