No one is Perfect

When I was younger, I used to think that I would like to be like my gran mother because she managed to stay with my gran father until he died. I liked the fact that she was patient and tolerant. Now I think about it; although patience and tolerance are two very important virtues needed in marriage, one has to evaluate the reason for tolerance. If its for a good reason then it's all good but if not? Hmm.. I could tolerate basic habits like leaving the toilet seat down,leaving the iron unplugged and so on. However, when it comes to serious stuffs like insults, disrespect, hitting, cheating and whatever else we can do to hurt each other. I don't think tolerance very much cuts it. My approach to a difficult situation is first to let it pass. Let both party let steam out and calm down. Then I would bring it up in a civilised way and calmly tell you what you did or said that hurt me and how I w old prefer us to have handled the matter. This works for light quarrels and small matters but for cheating; to each his own. I don't think this approach would work because I would be furious and I just cannot imagine being calm about it. Truthfully, the purpose of this blog is people to start being true to themselves. I mean I don't expect you to tell me your secrets but use this as a channel to start putting things right around you. With yourself, partner,kids, family and friends. Phillipians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Philippians 4:8 KJV). Patience is needed in marriage when you are upset and about to blow up. Take yourself out of the situation for a moment and think. Would I regret anything I say now? Would my words or actions cause more harm than good? And would I be the one apologising at the end of the day? If the answer to these questions are yes, you need to backup and let it slide to be brought up another day. You might be thinking at this point " easy for her to say" I would say "there is no harm in trying". Communication is important in marriage. Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: (James 1:19 KJV) So at this point I say ourovior. Stay blessed